Everybody in this world should have a role model or at least a pattern to follow and take advantage of what a role model does in different situations. A role model can be someone we admire the most in life. To every child his/her parent is the most perfect creature on earth, the loveliest and the most infallible. Normally, an ideal role model for a girl should be her mother, but the problem is there are no hard and fast written rules to be the ideal mother. In fact sometimes mothers don’t have enough patience to put up with the childish tantrums and make the child feel satisfied and happy. Fortunately, my mother has earned my respect for her role as a kind mother, an understanding wife and her involvement with her career and helping people.
My mother is a retired head nurse of a mental hospital whose love and radiating warmth not only affected her family, but also influenced thousands. However, the beauty of her kindness as a mother is hard to put in words. All I can say is she is a devoted mother of three. No matter what, she was the first person in the family who woke up early in the mornings. By the time we woke up, she had already made us breakfast and lunch. Despite all the achievements in her career, she eagerly quit her job as the head nurse in mental hospital to go to the U.S. to take care of my 13-year-old brother. More importantly, I have been blessed with an extraordinary relationship with her. She taught me how to “go for it” and was always standing by with outreached arms when I failed. I remember in sixth grade my scores had slipped from A’s to C’s, and all was because of the unhealthy condition I had during that year. At the end of the year when my finals began, I was so nervous about the classes which I had already skipped. My mom encouraged me throughout the studying, and keep pushing and helping me with those courses. She stayed awake on the nights before the exams; teaching the whole book and giving instructions. Furthermore, she used to give beneficial advices about my personal life, but she never involved in my relations seriously. By that, she planted the seed of confidence, and brought out the belief in me. In general, when I had difficulties in my personal relations, or in school I used to go straight to her and talk about the problems I had at school or with my friends since she was the closest person to me.
Additionally, she is a very supportive and understanding wife. We all know that immigration is not an easy move, especially for a family who has a young child. Nevertheless, my mother accepted my dad’s suggestion about moving from Iran to the United States to continue his education regardless of all the obstacles they might face. After a month or two of living with a lovely host family, they had to get their own apartment. Hence, there my mother was supporting the family financially. She worked hard while my dad was finishing his university studies. After that, she provided additional help, and she assisted him in every one of his attempts until they came back home. In contrast, today my dad appreciates my mom’s help every now and then, and that is really valuable for her and of course for me. Another positive characteristic of her that impresses me the most is that she respects my father’s family as her own. In spite of the fact that my dad’s family used to stay at our house every time they came from their own city, I never, not even once, saw my mom disrespect them or say a bad thing behind their back. She took care of my father’s parents like her own parents.
Last but not least, I am honoring the bravery, courage, and strength of my mother at her work environment. She was a very successful head nurse of a mental hospital when she had to sign her retirement to travel to the U.S. I remember that all of her friends were asking her, “What about your nursing history? It is all going to vanish if you quit.” But she did what she had to do. She used to wake up in the middle of the night, like a saint walking on earth, to go and check on her patients. Besides, she was a very disciplined supervisor and a sympathetic nurse. When she was in charge, she made sure that all of her employees were doing their jobs. Her employees not only honored her as a lovable human being, but they also considered her suggestions regarding their jobs. By being affectionate, she made herself as someone whom people are never going to forget. Once, when she brought me with her to work, I saw how she sat with every single one of the patients and listened to what they said. She cried and laughed with each of them while they were telling the story of their lives.
For all of these reasons, my mother is the woman who I admire the most. She has been a dedicated mother, an empathetic wife, and a compassionate nurse. She is also an extraordinary positive person, and she has never betrayed her essence, even when faced with some of life’s most challenging curveballs.